Do you ever find yourself noticing someone's flaws, such as when you don't like their words or actions or when you get irritated?
It's difficult to get along with everyone, but depending on how you perceive things, the vague feeling you're currently experiencing may be alleviated.
In this blog, I would like to understand the emotional state you might be in when you notice someone's flaws, and also write about ways to deal with the situation.
People are born and raised in different environments, have different feelings, and have different experiences.
Each person's life path determines their own values, and the level of happiness and boiling point of their anger vary.
Why do we notice the other person's flaws even though we know they are different?
This is because we create mental filters based on our own values, and we listen to and observe the actions of others through those filters.
If your mental filters are clear, you won't overthink things and will be able to see things optimistically.
On the other hand, if your mental filters are cloudy, you'll tend to see things negatively.
If you become too caught up in your own self-created fixed ideas of "it has to be this way" or "it should be this way," you will end up suffering.
Many of you may have heard the words of the Buddha, the enlightened Buddha, "A person's attitude is a mirror that reflects their own mind."
While I respect this noble idea of the other person being a mirror of yourself, I also look at things from another perspective.
It's about realizing that just as there are things you're not good at, there are also things the other person isn't good at. Just as there are things you like, there are also things the other person likes.
Also, the words and actions you have taken towards someone in the past may come back to haunt you now. This means that you are reaping the karma of your past life, even if it is not in this life.
If you think this way, even if you see the other person's faults, you will come to realize that everything is mutual, and you will treat them with love no matter what their personality is or what their attitude is.
Accept and forgive yourself for being yourself, and accept and forgive others for being themselves.
Even if you notice their flaws, try to forgive yourself for them as well.
The people you have connections with now, the people you will meet in the future, and the people you have met in the past are all necessary for your growth.
The more you think this way, the more you'll be able to learn something from every person you meet in life, regardless of their attitude, and your life will become more meaningful.
When you notice someone's flaws, how will you respond?
Your mental filters are what determine how you see others.
